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Relationships and safer sex

Sex and relationships can be complicated, whatever your age, but particularly in your teenage years

If you're not finding it easy to get along with people, including your family, you can talk to someone - phone, go online, chat online or go and see someone face to face.

Pulse offers a range of sexual health advice and other services to support young people.

Lift and Platform hold regular Pulse clinics, works closely with Brook and also offers free condoms to young people registered with the Come Correct Programme.

There are sexual health and contraceptive organisatiions that can help:

Also check out the services and related information below and see the Camden and Islington sexual health leaflet

In a relationship

If you are:

  • in a relationship that makes you unhappy, or you are affected badly by family relationships and arguments, it makes sense to think about what is going on and try get help to sort it out.
  • being treated badly, confused about your sexuality, worried about coming out, it can be very helpful to talk to people who understand what you are going through.

If someone you were close to has died, things may be difficult after. The hopeagain website can help.

In law, the ‘age of consent’ for sexual activity is 16. This applies to straight and gay sex. This means that, if someone has sex with someone who is under 16 years old, they can be charged with rape or sexual assault.

Anyone in a ‘position of trust’, such as a teacher, will be breaking the law if he or she has sex with someone under 18. Look at The Mix for more information on what the age of consent means for you.

Forcing or persuading someone to have sex, if they don’t want to, even if they are in a relationship together, is rape – whatever their age.

Rape attacks and sexual assaults should be reported to the police. They have specially trained officers, called Sapphire officers, who work sensitively with anyone attacked.

If you are worried that your own behaviour is abusive, you can get help from the services below too.

Below you will find information and services to contact and get confidential help, about your experiences, Some of these people have had similar experiences to you.

If you feel happier with getting support over the internet or telephone, services will provide this for example, call Childline on 0800 1111. If you are in immediate danger of an attack, such as a physical assault or rape, call the police on 999.

Safer sex and contraception

If you say no to sex you won’t need contraception but once you have decided that you are ready for a sexual relationship it is a good idea to think about contraception.

If you don’t take steps to have a safe sex life, you run the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and an unplanned, unwanted pregnancy.

If you do use contraception, don’t forget that drinking too much alcohol can result in forgetting to use it.

There are 15 different methods of contraception. You can get help to decide which would be the best method for you. See also NHS Choices.

Contraception services are free and confidential to all, including those under 16 years old but there are strict rules for professionals who work with under 16s.You can get them from:

  • GPs
  • sexual health clinics
  • young people’s centres like Pulse.

Emergency contraception such as ‘the morning after pill’ after unprotected sex is free from contraception services. It can also be bought at most chemists, if you are over 16.

You can buy condoms in chemists, supermarkets and some clubs and pubs.

Find out how much do you know about safe sex practices by taking the NHS short online test.

There are organisations that can help, including sexual help and advice from Pulse at:

Also check out the services and related information below.

Are you worried you may have caught an sexually transmitted disease?

If you are sexually active, you are at risk of getting a sexually transmitted infection (STI), especially if you haven’t used a condom. You can get advice and testing at these centres.

Facts:

  • Cases of STIs, especially chlamydia, are rising in young people
  • STI symptoms are often very uncomfortable. Women don’t always have symptoms but still need treatment, or they will risk their own health and will pass on the infection
  • The sooner you are treated, the easier it will be to get back to normal
  • Some STIs lead to infertility – another reason to get treated quickly
  • Most STIs are easily treated (exceptions are HIV and hepatitis)
  • Chlamydia is an STI that is on the increase in both sexes, particularly in the 16 to 24 age group. It doesn’t always have symptoms but left untreated, it can lead to long term health problems and infertility. Getting checked for chlamydia is simple – just provide a urine sample.

These orgsanisations can give you confidential practical advice on how to prevent STIs, who will run tests like the simple one for chlamydia, and who can treat you:

Also check out the services and related information below.

Think or know you are pregnant?

Firstly, you need to get yourself checked out to see if you really are pregnant.

If your pregnancy is unplanned, deciding what to do could be hard. Find out about all the choices open to you as soon as possible. You can get advice and a pregnancy test at Pulse and Lift.

Get as much advice as you can from experts ,as well as talking to your family.

These agencies can help, with friendly, confidential advice  from advice workers and medical staff who will not judge you:

Also check out the services and related information below